“Sovereign Love”
January 30, 2022
Dear brothers and sisters, grace and peace be to you from God our Father, and from our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ, Amen.
I’d like to begin this morning by giving a shout-out to a local celebrity: specifically, I want to pay tribute to Jim McCutcheon, who is also known around here as the Guitar Man. He also owns McCutcheon Music over in Centerville; if you haven’t yet seen him in concert, listened to any of his music, or visited his music store, you definitely owe it to yourself to. You’ll really find it an enjoyable experience. Those of you who follow me on social media have probably noticed I’ve been posting about musical instruments again. Well, as it happens, the Guitar Man is actually who inspired me to talk about the various musical instruments I have, along with being asked by Tish to give musical demonstrations to the YMCA summer campers last summer, and to become known, at least to the YMCA summer campers, as “The Instrument Guy.” A year ago last summer, I was privileged to see the Guitar Man give a mini-concert in Germantown, and afterwards, I actually got to meet him, and I asked him what his one main secret for giving his concerts was. His advice was surprising, but was also really simple and profound: “Do everything from a place of love.”
What I took him to mean, and what I still continue to understand he means, is that the best way to connect with your audience, and make sure you keep having their attention, is to let them know you love them. You’re not just there to give a presentation and then leave: you’re there because you really do love the people you’re with, you care about them personally, you want them to have a good time, and you want them to experience the same joy you get every time you do what you’re doing for them. You’re also being genuine and real, and you’re demonstrating that you’re being genuine and real in how you interact with the people you’re with, showing you really do care about them. You’re not just doing what you do just for yourself: you’re doing it for another person, and you enjoy what you’re doing because you’re doing it for another person. It’s really all about making connections, and making connections out of love and concern for others, and being humble and genuine in doing so. What the Guitar Man says is true: Do everything from a place of love. Do it because you love people and want to make a lasting, real connection with the people you meet. Do it because you want to make an impact and you want to make a difference, not for yourself or your own self-satisfaction, but for other people.
Generally, that’s what true love is. It’s all about people. It’s about making a genuine connection out of a desire to show care and concern for another person, and have our happiness come from knowing we’ve connected with someone in a special way, and shown them we care for them and we’re concerned about their happiness and well-being. In today’s Second Reading from First Corinthians, we hear more about this kind of love, which is not only practical advice, but is the exactly the kind of love God shows us, and the kind of love we are to show to others in response to God’s special kind of love. This is the love that is called agape in Greek: love that gives and wants to connect simply for the sake of giving and connecting, and having the giving without expecting anything in return be its own reward. God showed us this kind of love in the greatest way possible by becoming like us to make a deep connection with us. Jesus became a human being like us in order to connect with each of us personally, to be able to experience our life and understand us. Everything He did while He was on this earth, He also did from a place of love. He healed the sick, raised the dead, and even turned water into wine not simply to demonstrate how powerful He was, but to help, to show concern, to show love and help the well-being of everyone He came in contact with. He did what He did because He loved, and still loves people. Since He has become like us and understands us, He is able to help us in every situation. His desire to help us is also unconditional: He is genuinely concerned about us at any given time, and wants nothing more than to give Himself to us. He was also unconditional in whom we helped while He was on this earth, as God had always been: Jesus even points this out in today’s Gospel reading, showing that God was even willing to show love and help to people outside of Israel – something which His audience, even the people He had grown up with in His own hometown, found offensive. And yet, God’s love is offensive – it offends our logic and preferences. God does not love the same way we love: He loves whomever He chooses, which may be offensive to us at times, but for which we are to be thankful for, because this means God even loves us. Even if we don’t always love ourselves, God still loves us. He showed this in the most real way possible when He died on the cross and rose again to save us from our sins, and win eternal life for us. Again, He did all this not to earn any special recognition or appreciation for Himself, but only for us. Even when He was rejected, and even when He continues to be rejected nowadays, He still perseveres and hopes: He never gives up on anyone, He always hopes for and wants the best for everyone, and He certainly never gives up on us and hopes for and wants the best for us. This is truly a more excellent way to love, because it is different from the kind of love we usually think of when we think of love. Love is not just about getting what we want, but it is about making a genuine connection with another person, and having that connection go both ways – someone wants to connect with us as much as we want to connect with them. Love is not something we do just for our own satisfaction or our own enjoyment, but true love is something we do for the benefit of another person. Sometimes we may not always get the appreciation we expect from showing love to another person, nor should we always expect to. But everything we do for another person, we do from a place of love.
But again, we have to understand what love really is. Love is not simply an emotion, or a feeling. Love is not a sentiment, or even just an attitude we are to have towards anyone or anything. Love is a verb. Love is an action. Love is not just being nice, or even just being kind to someone, but it is doing everything possible to show real concern for someone’s happiness and well-being, which often takes work and effort. This is the kind of love by which we are able to reach and impact people more effectively. We always are to remember that we do not exist for ourselves alone: we exist for other people, just as God does. God does not just exist for Himself, but He exists for connections. He is deeply connected with each one of us, and He desires for us to be deeply connected with each other, and seek out new people to be connected with. We exist to make connections with other people, and we seek to do so by actively understanding and appreciating other people. We exist to seek to understand and appreciate other people’s experiences, hopes, dreams, struggles, and appreciate them for who they are and where they are. We exist to seek to honor and respect people for who they are and where they have been, and demonstrate the kind of love God has for us and for all people in doing so. Respecting and honoring someone for who they are and where they have been also involves a lot of work and effort, because we want to try to “fix” another person, or make them into who we want them to be. However, this is exactly the kind of pride, or arrogance, which St. Paul says love is not: it is instead, whatever effort it may take, Love also involves commitment, which is what preserving and hoping is. When I do relationship counseling with couples who are either about to be married or already married, I always emphasize that the reason for getting married is not just because of being in love, but out of a desire to be committed to each other. This means that love involves humility: humility in a relationship does not mean denying one’s own identify, sense of self-worth, or self-esteem, nor does it mean having to surrender who one is entirely in order to earn the love of another person. It also does not mean having to change completely and become exactly like another person in order to have a relationship. That is what a dysfunctional, manipulative, even an abusive relationship is, and is not a truly loving relationship. Instead, love with humility means recognizing that no people are exactly alike in a relationship, and it means setting aside any pride, needing to be boastful or needing to be right, and instead protecting the relationship, trusting each other, and being willing to do whatever it takes to help each other persevere in the relationship. This might even mean being willing to adapt, but doing so ought to benefit not just one person in the relationship, but both people.
However, the other reason we’re talking about what love is today is not only to get a glimpse of how to make our own relationships better. That is good practical advice, but we are called for something even greater. We have been called to love for a special reason: to show God’s love to bring people to Him. We are called to make connections with people for the purpose of God changing their lives through us. As God says to Jeremiah in today’s First Reading, and whether or not we realize it, as Christians we have been given power over nations and kingdoms: we have the power to speak God’s words to change lives, hearts, and even the course of history. But with this great power comes great responsibility. We are to be asking whether what we do for another person, or for people, really does come from a point of love: if we really are concerned about caring for the sake of caring, or if we expect something in return. We are also to use the words we are given to speak to build up and plant, specifically, to plant and build up connections and relationships with other people. Love is a far more powerful way to convince people of who God really is, and that He is the only one true God, than trying to force people through argument or any other means of forceful persuasion. Love can move hearts with even more power than it takes to uproot mountains and trees. With this in mind, we also always have to be asking ourselves: what’s powering us? What’s motivating us? Why do we do what we do, whether as Christians, or as a church family? Is it simply to fulfill a duty, an activity, or is it to show others the love God has shown us? Are we motivated by a desire to grow, or to grow in love? We are to be asking whether we are indeed powered and motivated by God’s love. Whatever we do, whatever we believe we are called to do by God at any given moment, we are to do everything from a place of love.
Now may the peace of God, which passes all understanding, keep your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus our Lord. Amen.